I’m a trailblazer of life after divorce

Divorce. It is often sticky. Good intentions to love and stay together until “death do us part” come unraveled and are replaced with anxiety, sadness and remorse while you both try to stay emotionally and physically afloat… People change and grow and relationships either embrace those changes and grow with them or they stay stuck and get left behind. It is hard to be on either end of that reality.

In the event that there is clearly no reconciling, divorce may result. I don’t encourage it, nor do I condone it. I try not to carry any judgement either way because really, its none of my business. The only judgement that matters, whether you are married or not, is your own. Knowing, understanding and enforcing your own personal boundaries is crucial to standing in your truth and speaking your peace. Can you love yourself enough to move forward gracefully? Can you sit in your emotions, mourn the loss and let go? Can you look for the good and the lesson? You get to define who you are going forward. Do you believe that something better lies ahead after the dust settles? Does moving forward alone suck? Maybe parts of it. Is it impossible to do? No.

If you had to list requirements for your idea of the perfect, forever-partner, what would that list entail? What would you be willing to overlook and what would be a deal-breaker for you? And most of all, before inviting someone else into your life, are you doing everything possible to be the best you can be for yourself?