Oil Tips for Intimate Love
Happy Valentine's Day people!
There are many different angles to this Hallmark holiday. The way we celebrate with our children or good friends are much different than the romantic ways we you may choose to celebrate with a lover.
Today, I am going (a little) out of my comfort zone to share some "intimate" oils that have been "recommended by a friend". 😉 And my apologies to our children. (If you are reading this, you might want to stop here. 😘)
Addressing sexuality and intimacy is nothing to be ashamed of or avoided. It is a healthy part of life, even as age advances. As a young nurse, I learned to get comfortable addressing intimacy and questions about restrictions with my patients because, more often than not, people WERE, in fact, interested in or actually HAVING sex. They wanted and needed to know how to proceed safely (and often did not know how to broach the subject). So this is me, with my nursing cap on, saying, OK people, let's talk about this!
Although there are many oils to choose from for intimacy, libido, romance and physical love, for the sake of simplicity, I have chosen three that I prefer.
1. Jasmine oil nurtures healthy sexuality by encouraging you to honor yourself and others and safety and trust within intimate relationships. It has a beautiful sweet smell. Apply it to pulse points and over your chest.
2. Neroli oil assists with longer term relationships that are continually undergoing growth and change. "Neroli symbolizes the fleeting beauty of spring blossoms and honors the long-lasting creation cycle in the life of the tree".* It helps you to take the time to nurture sexual unity. Also apply to pulse points and across your chest or inner thighs.
3. Cinnamon oil is the oil of sexual harmony. (Not recommended for pregnant women) It "assists individuals in accepting their body and embracing their physical attractiveness"* and "nurtures healthy sexuality"*. "It invites individuals to be honest and vulnerable, thereby allowing true intimacy to emerge".* It is considered a "hot" oil and is spicy!! It is an oil that you want to dilute heavily and you definitely want to keep it away from eyes and use caution on "soft membranes" (ie: genitals) (Did I mention it was spicy??)
As a little bonus to you, I have a very easy natural "recipe" for a spicy natural lubricant that "my friend" loves. No chemicals or synthetics. It is made with two ingredients: (Non-GMO) coconut oil and cinnamon oil.
Why Coconut oil and not fractionated coconut oil (fco)? The two differ in that the components that allow the oil to become a solid are removed in the fractionated coconut oil so that it always stays in a liquid form. The solid form is used here so you have the ability to scoop out the amount that you want or need and it stays pretty easy to control (vs a liquid that gets drippy and can have a mind of its own). You just scoop a little into your hand and when it makes contact with the warmth of your skin, it melts and can be massaged into the skin. Adding the cinnamon gives it a LOVELY tingle and an amazing smell.
To make your own Cinnamon Massage oil, you will need coconut oil, cinnamon, a container to put it in, a spoon to stir and a pot to melt it in.
1. Scoop about 1/4-1/3 cup of the coconut oil into a pan or glass dish. Melt on low heat it until it is in a liquid form.
2. Add 3-6 drops of cinnamon to the melted coconut oil and stir.
3. Pour into a container with a top for storage.
4. You can let it sit at room temperature to solidify or place it in the refrigerator for 15 minutes to a half hour.
5. Scoop a small amount into your hand(s) and apply to area for massage. 🔥
**It will melt and re-solidify depending on the temperature at which it is stored. Summer nights you may find it in liquid form but you can always pour instead of scoop.
Just as a follow up safety suggestion, if an oil is ever too hot or gets in your eyes, don't rinse with water, apply straight oil (more plain coconut oil or vegetable or olive oil) to the site to further dilute it until the burning goes away.
[*"Essential Emotions: Your guide to process, release and live free. 8th Edition"]